Humanity perceives that it is in it’s best interest to fragment itself through various religious identities, racism, classism etc. But if we allow ourselves to continue the legacy of separation by various religious labels, we continue our disease of separation where we divide the world into insiders who “get it” (a good thing) and outsiders who “don’t get it” (a bad thing), the purpose of life becomes so obvious! Our life work then is to decrease the bad and increase the good in the world. This has been the cause of many of the FB fights we see on posts etc. It appears that every group that was once a victim in turn becomes a perpetrator in some way. We must begin to see ourselves as part of the human family and embrace the world as our community. We must find where we are similar rather than different to gain the compassion and care we need for others, and stop the tyranny breathes from an insular world view. The healing can only begin as we learn to embrace and respect others even though their view point may differ largely from ours. Facebook and Word press are training grounds to test your tolerance or intolerance of others, tread wisely.
That thing which you fight is exactly what you become. For example anger, this is a great example because so many have a problem with anger. If someone is angry and you meet them with anger, what is the outcome? Yes, more anger. Throwing fire on fire is no way to quench it.
Anger may be the result of many causes, and without understanding them there is no escape from anger. We have created the enemy, the bandit, and becoming ourselves the enemy in no way brings about a solution. We have to understand the cause and cease to feed it. We are responsible for bringing this enemy into being. We create the friend or the enemy in our own minds.
It is not what any other person has done that has caused this anger to well up in us, therefore the answer lies in taking responsibility for our thoughts, identifying the triggers of our anger, and taking up the arduous task that demands constant self-awareness and intelligent pliability, for what we are the society, the state, the world is. Right thinking begins with allowing love to permeate all that we do and think, love transcends the enemy and the friend. The water that you throw on the fire will out it.
“Some people ask how they can muster up the energy each day to face the a world that they think is a hostile, unhappy place. When they feel so depressed about their lives and they don’t want to face other people, they feel like they just want to curl up and escape everything.
The question is how can we remain positive in a negative world. One answer is that there is alot of positivity in this world, one just has to take the time to see it, embrace it and enjoy it. We miss alot of the joy we can have because we are so caught up in our selfishness and negativity that we miss many moments that can be super!
If we begin to spend more time looking closer at those around us and looking for the beautiful things in them, just like when we go for a walk in the park, we can choose to see the dead leaf or the robin in the nest.
The human mind, on the other hand, uses both positive and negative thinking to try to “spin” the world into something more acceptable based on prior conceptions. For example we might have a mind that is trapped in a religious view of people and society which may not be a healthy conceptualization of the world. In other words we are trapped by our false conceptions of what happiness should look like, and also what we think is the acceptable way that others should behave. This is part of our survivalist instinct, but many times it leads to false assumptions and problems! Making a decision to create a new path, not based on past assumptions can be scary and liberating, but if you don’t venture here then you are stuck.
Instead of staying in the spin, breathe, stay in the present, and the spinning will slow until you face today and this moment with grace, energy and compassion.” LC
There is a growing problem today, that is one of rage, sometimes it takes the form of road rage, domestic violence or rude co-workers. Many are damaged but don’t know how to attempt to fix their brokenness. It is so sad that some people fight against themselves their entire lives and are never happy or content with who they truly are. They believe the lies their parents told them that they were not being “good” children, and that they will not be accepted unless they behave the way mommy and daddy think they should. The duality of their natures have left them perplexed too many a time and has led them to many forms of escapism and vices. Many have to hide to be themselves, because they think they will not be accepted when people learn who they truly are. There are many carrying burdens from childhood, anger that have been pent up for years, because they have not confronted the problems of yesteryear, outbursts are inevitable for there is only so much the psyche can handle.
This may be a reason why many never find happiness, because while it is right under their noses they can’t seem to live in the moment and enjoy the happiness they so much deserve. They are enslaved in their own minds because they are trying to live up to something that doesn’t exist. Some standard set by their parents, by a church or by a teacher about what is acceptable and what isn’t. These have caused them to feel guilt and insecurity when they do not live up to the high expectations of others. Many times people do not realize the destructiveness of such a life until it is too late. They have not properly let go of their past failures in relationships or of the hurt, guilt and bitterness they have for people who they have been hurt by.
Confrontation is a huge part of healing the body, mind, and spirit. Many decline from it, but it is only when you deal one on one with each issue that has affected you in your past, that you can gain the freedom to move on. You must confront those who have hurt you and forgive them, even if they never asked for forgiveness. For example, if you have a father who doesn’t care about you, you may be upset that he has hurt you, you may care about him, but find it hard to communicate this to him. Well you cannot have a relationship with someone who doesn’t want one, but you can let them know that you forgive them for not wanting one ,and you can let it go in your mind and heart. You still love them, but you have decided to let go so this has been laid to rest, it cannot hurt you anymore.
Letting go of the things you cannot change and deciding to make strides in positive relationships with those who are in your life presently are all part of the healing process. All are these are conscious decisions that can only make a difference in a life if they are fully embraced. Come face to face with your failures and accept that they have made you a better person. How have they done this? They have led you to keep trying and to have compassion for others who fail.
I stop everything I am doing, because I choose to live in this moment.
I put aside all my hang ups which creep up in my mind about the activity, choosing to trust my heart rather than my feelings.
I accept everyone and everything around me for who or what they are.
I choose to let go of the things that are not going my way, I choose to lose control over everything.
I drink up all the information my senses offer me at the time and savor them.
I consider the feelings and emotions of those around me and think how I would like to be treated if I were them.
I enjoy the input that I receive even if it is not what I expect.
I have no expectations, but to be pleasantly surprised by the beauty I discover in the scenery, people and animals all around me.
I live, I am happy and free to live for today!
You have to turn, twist, radiate to survive;
Pulsating through a sea of thoughts
You must do the Tango to uncover the truth.
The mundane must become a pleasure,
Your talents must be your study.
Let go, unleash the real you, and you will find something scary
The joy and peace you seek for is inside,
You can only possess it if you decide
You must feel the embrace of the partner of your heart…
Your hearts must connect or its all for naught.
Opening the eyes of your soul truly is the beginning of really living! You see life is all about relationships, more importantly “heart relationships.” But how can you have proper heart relationships when you haven’t even taken the time to study your own heart? A major part of studying your own heart is done when you begin to analyze the way you have reacted to situations in your life, have your reactions been positive or negative? Can you make a change by stopping yourself before you begin the vicious cycle of negative comments or attitudes to others, or are you on a roll, a roll which ends in broken relationships and broken hearts? When you choose to stop, and decide to breathe life and healing into the situation instead of death which begins many a time with your tongue, the eyes of your soul begin to open in a whole new way!
So what are some other steps in opening the eyes of your soul? You must accept yourself for who you are now. Stop having great expectations of yourself and everyone else in your life. Accept all of your life as it is now, and the accept others for who they are now. Don’t try to change anyone but yourself. Begin to accept and appreciate all you have endured in life thus far, take accountability for all your successes and failures. Breathe in, and accept all that comes your way each moment in life. Make a decision to live a life with a fresh take at each moment as not to become bored or complacent. Change the way you have always done things as to keep yourself learning, growing and creating new paths in each situation that presents itself to you. These are all features of “Empowered Living.”
Now how do you live a heart conscious life where you are connected to the hearts of others? To do this you need to begin to learn how to win the hearts of those around you, you must try to step into their shoes and see the world through their eyes for this to be successful. When you begin to think of the needs of those you love, rather than your own, you open new doors of heart connections that could have never been discovered if you didn’t take this path. For example, your son is playing with an airplane, around the house, he is making the noises that the airplane makes. You are sitting reading your latest blogs, but the greatest opportunity for heart connection has just presented itself to you. What are you going to do about it? Think, to a child love is time, yes, your time, the time you spend doing the things he loves with him! So get another toy airplane and begin a heart adventure with your child playing with him, instead of being selfish with your time and serving yourself with blogs. Think of it like this, when you are on your death bed trying to make sense of life, wouldn’t you be happy to know that you won the hearts of your family and friends through the caring relationships you built with them, no regrets, a life full of successful heart relationships is a life worth living!